Friendship Experiences In Life

Hello and welcome to my little world!
This is my very first post on this blog. I hope you enjoy your stay here. I’m not promising much as I can’t do it all by my self but with total support from readers as you. Here’s thanking you for finding time to visit and read my post, I appreciate it so much. Thank you once again, and have a nice time reading.

I wish to start my very first post on FRIENDSHIP because I value friendship so much, I also love connecting with new friends online… Now, take a deep breathe, sit back, and relax as we explore together what friendship is all about. You will be able to decipher whether you are genuine friend or just a friend to someone, and also if they are to you.

Not having people around you who genuinely share in your joy, and give you a shoulder to cry on can be really heartbreaking, and more heartbreaking is when you have trains of people around you but they do not help build your self esteem. This can be likened to being alone in a crowed. Read on to know who a REAL FRIEND is…

A simple can stand by you when you are right, But a Friend will stand by you even when you are wrong. A simple friend identifies himself when he calls. A real friend doesn’t have to. A simple friend opens a conversation With a full news bulletin on his life. A real friend says, “What’s new with you?

A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent. A real friend says, “You’ve been whining about the same thing for 14 years. Get off your duff and do something about it.” A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

A simple friend doesn’t know your parents’ first names. A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book. A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend comes early to help you cook And stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed. A real friend asks you why you took so long to call. A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems. A real friend seeks to help you with your problems. A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could blackmail you with it.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest. A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself. A simple friend thinks the friendship is over When you have an argument. A real friend knows that it’s not a friendship until after You’ve had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend expects to always be there for you!

*Hmmmm! Friends are indeed priceless. Do you have a REAL or SIMPLE friend? Let’s share what their qualities are.*

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Answer To Why Is Suya Wrapped In Used/Old Newspapers In Nigeria

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Why is suya wrapped in used/Old newspapers in Nigeria? by Boris Ezomo

Suya for our non Nigerian friends, is heavily spiced barbecue. Often sold as street food.

They use newspapers because it is an cheap source of paper to wrap the food, to eat off and dispose. So a form of recycling.

Probably a habit we took off the British when we were their colony. I would think that they were wrapped with banana or other large leaves before then.

What I want to achieve by 40

I don’t have a 10 year plan. Not even a 1 year plan. I make monthly goals and weekly plans and daily to do lists. However, last night I listened to a podcast by Joey Kidney and it inspired me to think about where I want to be in 10 years. https://castbox.fm/vb/369821723 My goal is […]

What I want to achieve by 40

This particular podcast blessed me. I think you should also listen to it, come back and let me know your thoughts in the comments.

If You Were Stranded In A Desert…

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With the outbreak of the COVID-19 Pandemic it has seemed like life itself looks strange to many. It has really been a trying time globally with almost everything shutdown. My heart goes out to all of you that has lost a close relative to the corona virus…they are heros!
To the frontline medical officers who put their lives out there on a daily basis to the fight of this deadly scorn, we are indeed proud of you.

In all of these I hope you find peace and closure to keep fighting and surviving while observing all the laid down hygienic rules which includes regularly washing of hands with soap under running water, use of alcohol based sanitizer, wearing of nose masks, observing social and physical distancing, maintaining proper personal hygiene, and stay home as much as you can if possible. Though extreme isolation can cause irregular sleeping patterns, altered logical and verbal reasoning, and losing a sense of time. Make sure to look for ways to keep your mental health in a state of wellness.

Okay! Enough with the rant of what many of us  already know about…lol but just take it as a gentle reminder.

Now, to the main purpose of the post. If you were stranded alone in a desert and you are left to survive with just one musical track, which song would it be?

Few years back I made a post similar to this where I shared the song that easily comes to mind and I can sing along with the lyrics off heart…you can read about it here. Well, over the years I still sing and dance to the rhythm of the music with nostalgia but not always on my lips like it used to. I now have a new addiction! I have it in audio, video, and ‘audio+video+lyrics’. It has also been my ring tone for two months now…Courage has practically been begging me to pls change my ringing tone. LOL!

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Right now, I can practically survive in the desert with this music!
It’s your turn now!
Which song gives you joy at the sound of it? I’d love to hear from you, and pls follow my blog to get notified every time I post. Thank you!

See you in the next post.

How To Impress A Woman

Hey people! Welcome to my little world.
By now you’re probably wondering how you can really build attraction with women without landing yourself in the “friends zone” again. If so, the next two posts are exactly what you have been looking for.

What you are about to learn is a simple strategy that you can use to capture a woman’s interest and get past a woman’s “defenses.”

Since this is a rather involved topic, we will be covering half of it in today’s post and the other half will be coming to you shortly…

What Really Impresses Women?
You know, impressing women doesn’t
have to be complicated. In fact, the next couple of posts in this series will teach you that the harder you try to impress a woman, the more her guard will go up.

Instead, what we are going to focus on is how to impress women by appealing to a natural and universal principle which is sure to arouse interest in any human being: that principle is being the exception to the norm.

IIt’s no mystery that people are intrigued by things which seem to be out of the ordinary.

Even something that is not necessarily pleasant can even capture and keep our attention as long as it’s uncommon enough.

Why is this?
It’s because people tend to attach more value to things that are hard to come by. Just think about all the silly things said that are interesting simply because of the fact that they are rare.

Now of course, it is also possible to get yourself labeled as a weirdo by going against the norm.

That’s why we also want to make sure that you’re different in a way that appeals to the woman’s natural
attraction instinct, which as you remember is based on her need for safety and security. Being both out of the ordinary and appealing to her need for security will be fulfilling two of her most basic emotional needs: Variety and Safety.

The need to feel safe is based on more than just safety from physical danger. A lot of pain in life is emotional and damages our ego or our heart.
The problem is that most men (or people for that matter), are only looking out for their own ego and their own heart. They would rather be heard and understood than try to listen and to understand. They would rather become defensive when someone offends them or disagrees with them, than just laugh it off. They would rather get jealous and protect their own interests when they feel threatened by a person.

The problem is that all these are signs of emotional weakness, and emotional weakness doesn’t make a woman
feel safe. Not to mention that talking about yourself, getting defensive when someone offends you, being argumentative when someone disagrees with you or getting wounded by rejection are all common responses. They are boring and predictable.

If you really want to impress the woman, demonstrate your emotional strength first by being the exception to
the norm. In other words, don’t get threatened when other men enter her presence.

Don’t get rattled or hurt if she rejects you. Don’t let yourself get bent out of shape when she starts acting bratty or “testing” you. When you’re interacting with the woman, don’t go out of your way to try impress her and to get your ego stroked. Instead, listen to her and don’t worry about when it will be your turn to talk. This is really not as
difficult as it may sound, it’s simply a matter of making a choice that they were going to be different.

Believe me, people who truly listen are so rare that she’ll probably find it refreshing. But when it is your turn to speak, there are a number of tricks and techniques to employ that will guarantee her attention… and have her remembering you for all the right reasons. This will prepare you for getting past her defenses
and making a lasting impression.

Looking forward to chatting to you in the next post…

Here’s to your success!

I’m Back Again! 

Hello and welcome to my world!

My real face

So I’ve been away for 5 years… I missed my blog and my readers so much. Well, I’ve been lazy and procrastinating to post even though I have posts in the draft. There’s basically no other reason as to why I’ve left this place desolate. I guess the Covid-19 pandemic lockdown made me to run back to my blog.

My blog, how could I have left you for so long? Even when you kept prompting me to drop my daily musings here but I kept on procrastinating it because I have been tied down with my job. Yet I have time to keep up and update my other social network platforms. Should I say shame on me…lol! Oh, how I’ve missed WordPress Daily Post and Daily Prompt…it was a huge source of motivation and inspiration for me to post daily.

Early Theme Adopters: Gazette

Uuuum…! Well, sounds like it going to look beautiful on my blog. Would look into it in the future

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Gazette is a theme that balances rich functionality with a pleasant, non-obtrusive look. Depending on your site’s needs, you can tweak it to look as stark and clean, or as warm and vibrant as you wish.

Business owners, visual artists, and bloggers of all stripes can find something (or many things) to love about Gazette. The theme is particularly suited for those with image-heavy content: with striking Featured Images, several custom Post Formats, and an optional featured content area on the homepage, it displays your posts with extra visual oomph.

Not sure if it’s the theme for you? Here are four strikingly different sites that make the most of Gazette‘s features.

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Help! Lazy Blogger!

Hello beautiful people…

I’ve really missed blogging… Truth is: I’ve been lazy to type out my thoughts. I need a little motivation here and there especially from you.

Can’t believe I’ve also lost touch with WordPress tools…searching for the icon for tagging posts, lol (funny).

Yes! I’ve finally figured it out!

Motivation to resurrect my blogging passion is all I need right now…

Email: bmusings1@gmail.com

How To Have A Stress-free Day

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.
In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. He continued, And that’s the way it is with stress management.

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be
able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a
while and rest before holding it again.
When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.

So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.
So, my friend, put down anything that may be a burden to you right now.
Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.

Always keep your words soft and sweet,
just in case you have to eat them.
Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.
If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague. If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply be kind to others.

Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on. Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance. Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

The second mouse gets the cheese.
When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.
Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live. You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once. We could learn a lot from crayons… Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour. Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today…I did.

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3 Obvious Signs That A Woman Is Attracted To You

Hello people!
Okay, at this point I’ve told you enough to make a dramatic change in your dating  life. But there’s always the question: “How can you really tell if a
woman is interested in you?”

Okay,  here are some ways that you can find out whether she’s interested or not…

Not All Women Are the Same

 So, first it’s important to understand that only about 1% of the general population (men and women alike) know what they  really want in a relationship. So you are always  going to be getting confusing signals from women, and some women will lose interest the moment that they realize they “have you where they want you.”

We’ll be talking more about how to keep this from happening in later posts. But it’s important that  you understand what you are up against. Other than  that, what you are about to discover is that most “interest indications” are communicated through a  woman’s body language.

Here are three things to look for…

1. Preening
This is when a woman does one of the following:  combs her hair back over her ear, rubs or scratches  herself on
the neck or collar bone, strokes her  wrists or the top of her hand or sometimes her cheek.
Body language experts tell us that these are the subconscious indications that a woman might be  attracted. Women don’t realize that they are doing  this, and that’s a good thing. This means that they  can’t hide their interest or fake it.
All you have to do is know what to look for.

 
2. Pupil Dilation
You might have heard that the eyes are the  windows of the soul, and this is certainly true  when it comes to reading a person’s genuine desires. This not just an enormous indicator interest,  it also tells you whether or not a woman is  aroused sexually. Of course, it’s
difficult to  see this in some women or in some settings.
But if you can get close enough (or if you have  really good eyes), pupil dilation almost always  guarantees that
you have a shot.

This physical reaction is so important when it  comes to determining a person’s interest that  marketing and
advertising experts have conducted  millions of dollars worth of research to determine which sounds, words,
symbols, colors and tastes  spur this response in people.

 
3. A Second Glance
This one is perfect if you are trying to  determine the interest of a woman you just saw  and have not yet met. Wait for her to look over  at you (she very likely will at least once).
When she does, don’t smile or wave or give any indication of interest. Just look back at her until she looks away (it will only be a few  seconds…at most).

If she looks away and towards the floor, or  even to the side, look down at your watch…wait 45  seconds, and
see if she looks back at you  before the 45 seconds is up. If she does, she’s  probably at least interested in being approached.

One word of caution, you MUST act fast once you  see these things! Remember, for us women, timing is  everything. If you miss your cue and don’t make a  move, her interest will be gone and you might  never get it back.

Of course, without the key ingredient of self confidence you are never going to be able to pull this off effectively, which is why you must check out ‘Supreme Self Confidence’

This is stuff that will change your life, not  just your dating success!

Now, for the next post, we’ll be changing  gears just a little bit and talking about how to  recover from a break up. The advice won’t be  what you expect I’m sure…but the results will  be out of this world.

You’ll see what I mean…
Chat to you soon.

Email: bmusings1@gmail.com