How To Get Past Her Defenses

Hello, and welcome to my little world.

In the last post on Relationship Tips we talked about some very simple ways to deal with heartbreak by not “mourning” a broken relationship.

How has it been working out for you so far?
 
Are you feeling like there is a piece of the puzzle missing? If so, then let’s go ahead and get into  today’s gist so you can get the whole picture.
 
By the way, you might be realizing that you’re  going to need greater control over your emotions.  Don’t worry, we’ll be getting around to that probably in the  next post…but for now…

Why Do Women Need Defenses?
 
You know, I used to think it was puzzling that a woman who was clearly looking for  the right man would have her dukes up. I mean how can  you
possibly give anyone a chance if you won’t let them  close enough to find out who you really are?
 
Picture it this way: how many times are you  solicited by businesses to spend money? You have sales  people calling you on the phone, on your television,  on the radio, knocking on your door and blowing up  your email box. How could you possibly give your  attention, let alone your money, to even half of them?
 
It’s just too much information…so you’ve probably got to be saying “no thanks” or “not interested” haven’t
you? You’re doing this so often that most of the time  you don’t even know what you’re not interested in!  So how can you blame a woman who’s probably getting  approached at least a dozen times a week?
 
How can you get past her defenses and set yourself apart from all the other men competing for her attention?

Here are five simple things that you  can do:
 

1. Don’t Hover

Hover close to her, glance at her occasionally  or even stare at her. The longer that you do this  without approaching her, the more defensive she is  going to be. In fact, you might completely ruin your  chances of
meeting her before you even open your mouth.
 

2. Don’t go out alone

Take a friend with you when you go out, preferably  a female friend. If a woman sees that you have friends, it
demonstrates to her that you have some pre-selected  social value. This sends her the subconscious message  that you are at least a halfway normal person. It also shows her that you have a life and this helps you to know that you won’t be one of those clingy, needy types.
 

3. Talk to Everyone (not just her)
 
This is really effective when it comes to getting  a woman to lower her defenses. In fact, if you are in  a
situation where you can talk to people around her without speaking directly to her, she’s eventually going to wonder:
“Who is this guy? He’s talking to  everyone but me… I wonder why.” This will show her  that you are friendly and will keep her from thinking  that you are talking to her just to hit on her.  If you do this the right way, she may even approach  you first. LOL
 

4. Master the Walk Away
 
Unless you are in a situation where you will lose  the chance to talk to her again, get into the habit  of walking away from the conversation temporarily.  This will show that you are not needy and will help  her relax. If the conversation which you start, but  don’t finish, is interesting enough you might even  get her to approach you
to continue it.
 

5. Wait on the Introductions

Sometimes it can be a mistake to introduce  yourself to
the woman right away. After all, what  is every other man
doing to get her attention?  Probably the old: “Hi I’m___, what’s your name?”  Much like the walk away, this will demonstrate to  her that you are not needy and will bring
her  defenses down.
 
As simple as these may sound, you might be  surprised at the difference they make!

Now, I would love to hear from you, what do you think about this post? Feel free to leave your comments below.

Thanks for reading.
Enjoy the rest of your day!

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